95% Of Trauma Comes From This One Unexpected Source, Experts Say

While the term generational trauma may have crossed your path before, have you ever really dove into it? Trauma is incredibly common; in fact, some estimates suggest 70% of adults in the United States have experienced some type of traumatic event at least once in their lives—but not all trauma comes from catastrophic events.

By definition, generational trauma refers to traumatic experiences that happened to your relatives who have come before you. This trauma can be stored in the body and, when unresolved, passed down again and again.

In fact, Maté states that 95% of trauma is multigenerational. "You unwittingly pass it on. That's just how it works," he adds. The trauma doesn't necessarily impact the genetic makeup of those to come but rather how those genes get triggered, he explains. This concept is known as epigenetics, which is an emerging field that Maté says has only recently been explored.

Beyond putting a stop to the continuous pass-down of trauma in your family, resolving your own trauma can even have physical health benefits since experts (Maté included) theorize that trauma can actually be stored in the body and manifest into illness.

When trying to help people identify their own trauma, Maté asks his clients about the last time they were really upset with someone. Most of the time, he says, "we're not upset about what we're upset about." 

Translation: There's a deeper meaning behind why certain things tick you off so much. This is because memory recall is conscious, while your body and nervous system have their own memories that are completely unconscious—yet the wound of trauma can still show up in your day-to-day life. As Maté explains, "Trauma is not what happened to you; it's what happened inside you." 

So the next time you're thinking, I don't know why I was so angry about that, take note of the trigger. This may be a helpful hint in pointing out your generational trauma. The same goes for trauma you've experienced firsthand.

And even if you may know the date, time, and place of a traumatic event, that doesn't mean you've processed all of the feelings that came along with it. And if you're wracking your brain trying to remember how you were feeling—that's a completely common response experts call repression.

First things first: It's important to stop the cycle of generational trauma. Of course, it's not easy to "heal" someone else's trauma that you didn't experience firsthand—but it is possible.

If you're in contact with any of your older family members, talking with them about what traumatic experiences they've gone through might be a good first step. If they're either not alive or in your life anymore, you can do some digging on your own: Take note every time you feel yourself becoming emotionally triggered. Then analyze the event that happened and why it made you feel upset—did you feel abandoned? Let down? Scared? Betrayed? Violated?

Once you know the root emotion you're feeling, you've answered the "why." Next, move on to the "what," which entails asking yourself what you can actually do to feel better. It could be calling a friend to talk through the emotions, going on a walk to clear your mind, journaling, etc.—however you choose to move through those emotions, do so with one baby step at a time.

While unraveling generational trauma may feel like a burden, it's an act of love that will only positively impact you, your children, and those to come after. That said, releasing deeply rooted emotions isn't easy, so here are a few more tips from a trauma specialist to help you out.