What To Do If You're Anxious About Socializing After Quarantine

Because I am a clinical psychologist, people ask me a lot of questions about mental well-being, both on social media and IRL. I recently invited my Instagram followers to ask me questions through the stories feature, and I received a number of responses. Here is one recent query that stood out:

While I don't want you to force yourself, if going to the grocery store feels truly impossible, what psychologists call "behavioral activation" might help you to take that first step. Let me explain:

If you were a social butterfly before the pandemic, that part of you will probably begin to awaken after a little bit of practice. If you thrived better in small groups, then continue to lean on close, trusted friends as you ease back in.

When you go to the office, walk down the street, or encounter other settings where socializing often happens, I encourage you to scan for signs of social acceptance. This can help retrain your brain to focus on connections with others rather than focusing solely on how awkward it feels to be out. Signs of social acceptance could be anything from eye contact to open body language to a simple wave hello. You might even try sending some friendly signs to others as well, as they may also be feeling apprehensive. This will give your brain something to do besides focus on your anxious inner monologue. 

Another idea is to listen to a favorite podcast or audiobook on your headphones while you venture out: This will give you a sense of familiarity and control while also providing a sort of "buffer" between you and the space around you.

If you need even more support, don't hesitate to seek out a therapist, and check out my quarantine transition tips.