The biggest misconception about sex is that it's dirty, forbidden, or wrong. In truth, sex is sacred. Not in a churchy way. (Though, don't get me wrong—if that's your thing, I'm down.) But as pure cosmic energy, sex is a physical act that provides a direct connection to the divine.

From my personal experience, sexual, spiritual, and creative energy are really all parts of one whole. If you are expressed creatively, you are going to be expressed sexually.

If you are in the flow of expressive sex, then you know that God must have a hand in it. And creativity is about spiritual communion.

Sex is a core function of humanity. It plays a huge role in the physical health and vitality of the body. Sex is also an immense, universal force that can merge your spirit (your divine essence) with your body. Sex is involution (spirit descending) and evolution (physical ascending) meeting at the heart in an explosion of pure love.

Sacred sexuality is completely counter to what our culture presents as the experience of sex. In modern society, sex is completely externally focused.

It's an objectification of form, mired in fantasy, watched from the sidelines as a "spectator" through porn and taking for granted the warm, human flesh we connect with.

While this widely used approach will surely produce an orgasm, it can be animalistic and short (22 seconds on average). Experiencing sex this way takes us away from the present. The present is the only truth there really is. It takes us outside of ourselves, when, really, the holy grail—sex as communion with the soul—is a possibility that exists within us any time, all the time.

Why is sex the most coveted experience in modern-day culture? Because we seek this connection with the divine. Because it allows us to transcend ourselves in a way no other experience does. We know there is the potential for sex to be transformational and life-changing.

Recognize that we are spiritual beings having a human experience—that you were created from a divine blueprint.

Accept that if you are a divine expression of this force, your partner is too. Yes, that person who annoys you and challenges you to no end. Expand your understanding and surrender all judgment of the person God has provided as your soul mate.

Shower or bathe—cleanliness is essential to meet the divine.

When you are both ready, enter into the circle of rose petals.

Join your third eyes together, breathing for six inhales and six exhales.

Open yourself up to exploring sexual intimacy however you feel moved to do so. Let every session be unique and distinct unto itself.

Remember, being fully in the moment during sex means having a total awareness of our being right now. Practice looking into each other's eyes. Stay in the feeling of each moment. Drop into the visceral feeling of this experience.

In the afterglow, share thoughts and feelings on your experience—a practice known as aftercare. Enjoy some decadent dark chocolate. Laugh about your challenges with this new approach, and enjoy the expanded experience of your intimacy.