What To Do When Your Partner Wants To Be Alone All The Time

Have you ever wondered if your partner is losing interest in you or the relationship? Maybe they are spending more time without you, or they want more time alone. You are concerned and can't figure out what their behavior means. You are worried, stressed, and unsure about the fate of your relationship.

It's OK if your partner wants to be alone. The problem may be that they want to be alone all of the time, meaning they don't want to spend time with you at all. Every relationship has a different dynamic, so let's start with the basics.

In any relationship, you need time together as a couple and individual time when you spend time apart. This will help you balance your individual needs and the relationship's needs. That said, some people are more extroverted, meaning they recharge by being around others. For example, an extrovert might like to spend a lot of time with friends or with their romantic partner because they find that social time energizing. This is different from someone who is more introverted, meaning they need time alone to recharge and feel energized.

If you are in a relationship with someone who needs time alone to recharge, don't take it personally. It's about their needs, not something you are doing wrong.

The question of what is healthy versus unhealthy can be subjective. You and your partner are different people, which means you will have varying needs. What matters is whether it is negatively affecting your relationship. If you're feeling stressed out over the amount of time you spend apart, it warrants a conversation to see how you can find the right balance that feels good and nourishing for both of you.

Regardless of your differences in personality, being able to be alone with yourself is a characteristic of a healthy person. If you do everything in your power to not spend time alone, that could be a red flag that you need to explore yourself. Difficulty in being alone may mean that you consistently need something or someone to distract you from yourself—which means you may be the one with an unhealthy behavior to address.

You're worried about what it means that your partner needs time alone. Could they be feeling bored with you or the relationship? What does it say about you that they need this alone time? Is there a concern that your partner may be experiencing depression or another mental health issue that is causing them to pull away?

If you are concerned that your partner may feel depressed, anxious, or is dealing with an issue on their own, then it's time for a conversation. Don't worry that a conversation about your concern will negatively affect the relationship. The goal is to address the needs of both of you and identify any concerns that need a more in-depth look.

Try talking to your partner about your concern. Let them know that you are concerned about the amount of time they spend alone. This conversation doesn't have to be the one time that you discuss this topic, so don't feel overwhelmed.