Taraji P. Henson On Aging: Therapy As Skin Care, Hair Growth Habits & More

When I sit down with actor, filmmaker, and mental health advocate Taraji P. Henson, I'm prepared to talk about changes. This series, after all, is meant to highlight how beauty icons have evolved over the years and what they've learned along the way. And we certainly talk about the shifting beauty landscape, the skin and hair care tips she's learned, and the memories that stand out (like her affinity for blue eye shadow). 

But to Henson, beauty surrounds not only what matures but what actually remains constant in her life—namely, her 40-year friendship with Tracie Jade Jenkins, who serves as the executive director of The Boris Lawrence Henson Foundation. 

"I think we were married in a past life," Henson jokes during a fireside chat at the recent Women's Mental Health & Empowerment Summit hosted by Kate Spade New York. As the two creatives recount how they met—and remained "soul mates"—throughout the years, they represent just how high true friendship can lift you up. (And on a beauty-related note, social connection can even facilitate faster wound healing1.) 

"All humans want to be seen," Henson tells me after the summit. "We want to be seen, we want to be heard, and we want to be loved." And when you have someone who truly sees you through all the natural shifts that life brings? Well, that's a beautiful thing. 

"My beauty philosophy is that aging is inevitable. Just accept it and age gracefully. You can't fight it. I mean, you can…but you'll look like you're fighting it. Just embrace it; it's going to happen.

"My first beauty memory was playing with my mother's makeup. I remember this picture where I have very dark lips and blue eye shadow, and I thought I was doing something. I think it was the late '70s. That's when blue eye shadow was in. 

"You ever hear, When you feel bad, get up, take a shower. You'll feel much better? I mean, that's what it's about—taking care of yourself on the outside. That's why I created TPH. We launched during the pandemic, and the idea was to give spa-like products for an affordable price and bring the spa home. Taking care of yourself from scalp to toe was the mission for TPH, and that still is the mission today. 

"The idea is to change the narrative of washing your hair or taking care of yourself as a chore. It's self-care. You make a moment out of it. You make it an experience.

"Drink lots of water and get some rest. It works. There's no gimmick there. 

"Even when I'm training, my skin glows. Like, I look different. My skin looks better…and therapy definitely makes your skin look great.

"I really pay attention to all the beauty things. I knew to wrap my hair at night—I learned that in my 20s—and I knew to wash my makeup off. I didn't wear a lot, but when I did, I made sure I washed. I don't care how hungover I am or where I come from; I will wash that makeup off my face before I go to bed. 

"I wish I had more [mental health resources]. We never talked about it. And it's unfortunate, because my best friend, Tracie [Jade Jenkins], who runs The Boris Lawrence Henson Foundation, suffered from depression and anxiety at a young age. 

"No one talked about it. We had no education around mental illness or mental health at all. We cry about it now because it's sad. It's so sad that we didn't know how to have these conversations. So absolutely, I wish there were more resources.

"Anything Guerlain. They have great hydration masks. Lancome makes this ice globe—I don't know if they make it anymore, but I have mine, and I'm never getting rid of it. I love that thing. Sometimes I just lay in bed and roll it all over my face.

[Editor’s note: Henson's Lancome favorite is sadly discontinued, but you can find some more swoon-worthy ice globes here.]