These 3 Simple Words Are Key To Unlocking Meaningful Conversations

We've covered it before, but social connections are crucial when it comes to overall health. Don't take our word for it; take it from positive psychiatrist Samantha Boardman, M.D., author of Everyday Vitality: "The most reliable contributor to our well-being is our social connections," she shares on the mindbodygreen podcast. In fact, research shows that strong social relationships can even affect your immune response1.

However, Boardman notes that the impact of those connections depends on their quality: "The research shows that not all social interactions are created equal," she explains. Specifically, she states valuable interactions depend on meaningful conversations—while not every exchange needs to be imbued with deep meaning, it's important that we regularly engage in such experiences in order to nourish our sense of connection.

According to Boardman, a seemingly simple phrase can make all the difference in our communications: "Tell me more."

You see, when you chat with others, it can be easy to breeze through a variety of subjects without delving further into any particular topic. And sometimes, that’s completely fine (i.e., discussing your schedule need not become a philosophical endeavor). But when we have the opportunity to cultivate a deeper exchange, this technique can be highly beneficial.

"Having frequent positive interactions with other people who also care about you is essential," adds Boardman. "And so how do you create environments to have meaningful conversations? It's really by paying attention... Usually, good conversations involve more listening than talking." So when you say to someone, tell me more, it signals to them that you value their words, that you're truly listening to what they have to say—and those components are key to forming connections, even if the conversation itself isn't deep or profound.