Manifestation 101: What It Is & How To Use It For Love, Money & More

Manifestation has become nothing short of a buzzword in recent years, but what actually is it? And how can you get started using it to attract what you want in life?

Manifestation works closely in tandem with the law of attraction. Both essentially suggest that we can "manifest" (aka call in, or attract) what we want in life with the right mindset and action.

As psychiatrist Anna Yusim, M.D., explains to mbg, the idea of manifestation was popularized by Rhonda Byrne's book and movie, The Secret, describing the universal principle that our thoughts create our reality. "We are what we think, consciously and unconsciously. In other words, what we attract into our lives reflects the contents of our mind," she explains.

Or as spiritual author Shannon Kaiser puts it, "We are all like magnets, both reflecting and attracting what we hold in our thoughts." Meaning, if you're in a negative mindset, that mindset will be reflected back to you in your life—or vice versa if you're in a positive mindset.

The law of attraction is one of the 12 universal laws, which focuses on shifting your thoughts and mindset to the point that the shift ripples out into the life you live. "According to the law of attraction, by changing your thoughts, you can change what shows up in your life," Yusim explains. 

And this law is actually backed by many psychological theories, she notes, such as Aaron Beck, M.D.'s cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT)1 model. In CBT, you work with a therapist to change your thought patterns, which in turn changes your feelings and behaviors, and thus, you change your life.

A good way to remember this is the phrase, "Thoughts become things." Every action, behavior, and choice is predicated by a thought, so when your thoughts begin to align with a more positive vibration and state of being, you're better equipped to make choices that align with what you're looking to manifest.

Manifestation and the law of attraction certainly have their appeal. After all, it sounds like a pretty good deal to simply "think" things into existence. But unfortunately, it's never that easy.

If manifesting were that easy, everyone would be doing it with roaring success—but alas, that is not the case. And in fact, there are a lot of reasons why someone can struggle with manifesting.

For one thing, Yusim explains, if you ask the universe for something that isn't for the highest good of everyone involved, the universe is unlikely to grant your request. Further, if you aren't specific in what you're asking for, or don't really have a good idea of what it will look or feel like, it will be more challenging to bring it into reality.

One popular manifestation method is using a manifestation journal. As manifesting expert and abundance coach Jocelyn Kelly Reid previously explained to mbg, using a manifestation journal "can be extremely therapeutic for releasing our emotions and giving us a safe space to express everything that tells us that we can't have what we truly desire." (You've gotta get that out of your system to make space for your manifestations, after all.)

The 369 method can be done in your manifestation journal or on its own on a regular sheet of paper. In either case, it involves writing down what you'd like to manifest three times in the morning, six times during the day, and nine times in the evening.

Kaiser is a fan of literally speaking your wishes out loud, to bring them out of your head and into this reality. It's a great method if you're just getting started, and you can do it virtually anytime. "Wake up and declare out loud to the universe, 'I would like X,'" Kaiser explains.

Just remember that you then need to follow up this statement with aligned action toward your goal.

If you're single and looking for love, using manifestation techniques to call in your soul mate certainly sounds appealing.

According to Kaiser, the first step is to notice how you could be subconsciously resisting love. For instance, she explains, if the universe keeps bringing you unavailable people, this could indicate something within you is still unavailable. So, once you identify why you might be resisting love and intimacy, you can begin the process of working through some of those blocks. (Easier said than done, but this guide can help.)

From there, "If would like to manifest a new life partner, tell the people you are close with of your intention and begin to keep your eyes and ears open for how this person may show up in your life," Yusim says.

Money is, of course, another area people often want to tackle with the law of attraction—and it starts by identifying whether you're operating from a scarcity mindset. Similar to manifesting love (or anything for that matter), removing the subconscious blocks that are interfering with your desires is key.

"If you would like more financial abundance to show up in your life, you need to begin thinking thoughts of financial abundance rather than of financial lack. You are even encouraged to start envisioning scenarios that signal financial abundance to you: opening your mailbox to find paychecks for large sums of money, being offered a higher-paying job, eating dinner at a nice restaurant, or whatever financial abundance means to you," Yusim tells mbg. 

The trick, she adds, is rather than thinking thoughts about wanting those things, you can think thoughts about already having those things. (Thoughts of "wanting" are actually thoughts of lack—we want what we don't have.)

"According to the law of attraction, such thoughts attract more lack. In contrast, thoughts of already having are thoughts of abundance, which would attract more abundance. The way of manifesting something in your life, therefore, is to think thoughts of it already being in your life," Yusim explains.

From an abundance mindset, if you would like to manifest a new job or make more money, start telling people you know of your intention, and take aligned action, networking and/or applying for jobs online, she suggests.