Am I Likable? Take The Likable Person Test + 7 Key Traits To Look For

Here's what we know about what constitutes "likable qualities," according to research and experts, plus a likable person test to gauge your own likability.

And while we all may have personal preferences in what we like in people, these foundational aspects are what we typically associate with likability.

According to both Birkel and Spinelli, likable people exude a certain positivity that makes others feel warm. And we're not talking about toxic positivity here; we mean a genuine positive attitude and outlook. Likable people are good at finding ways to keep things lighthearted, humorous, and rosy, with Birkel noting that they're excellent at breaking the ice and Spinelli adding they are also fun and can laugh at themselves.

Being open and nonjudgmental is another strong quality of a likable person. As Birkel tells mbg, "They really allow others to be themselves and don't make anyone feel judged." This includes, and is particularly relevant, when engaging with someone who has different beliefs, perspectives, or interests than them.

Likable people are, of course, friendly. Even if they are a more reserved person, again, it's that warm quality that lets people know, "This person is safe." As Spinelli puts it, likable people are "a well-balanced combination of energy and spirit without overpowering others. They share interesting anecdotes or information, but are also heart-centered in their approach with others or situations."

And speaking of well balanced, Birkel and Spinelli both note that likable people have a very balanced way of engaging with others. As Birkel explains, you wouldn't particularly want to engage with someone who doesn't let you get a word in, but you also don't want to have to carry the conversation. A likable person, he says, is able to strike the balance between the two, so there's appropriate give and take.

Confidence is a prime example of the Goldilocks principle—too much and you could be seen as arrogant, too little and you could be seen as insecure. But when you have just enough, Birkel says, it invites people in because they can sense that you're self-assured and stable. When you "love yourself from the inside out," he says, people will find you more likable, but when you appear to be not taking care of yourself, it can send others the wrong message.

Authenticity is invaluable in a world of filters and questionable motivations. When people can sense that you're authentic, according to Birkel, they'll not only trust you more but will find you more likable. And this includes things like keeping your word, which Spinelli adds is important, too. "People find [likable people] to be trustworthy and reliable, whether it is their consistent behavior or sticking to their commitments," she tells mbg.

And lastly, likable people care. "They are empathic listeners and show a genuine interest about what someone else is sharing," Spinelli notes. Whether it's lending a hand to help a friend, asking others questions, or reaching out to connect with someone, likable people aren't afraid to show they care.

But if you do want to become more likable, the good news is understanding what makes someone well-liked and making a few thoughtful behavioral tweaks can go a long, long way.