The Biggest Change You'll See When You Find Your Self-Worth

Releasing our ego's need to make us small and separate shifts our understanding of our role in the divine plan. We learn that Spirit is within us and beyond us all at once. We begin to see that the light is in us and around us. This suggests that we are being supported—and then, as we receive confirmation through signs and messages, we have a direct experience of this support. We begin to trust.

Instead, we trust the greater way—the highest intention and the highest path. We trust that whether something comes or it doesn't, it's ultimately the best result because our guides are always looking out for what's in our interest in the long run. We trust that Spirit is seeing beyond the details and working toward the highest good of everyone involved.

This begins to release false ideas of cause and effect, many of which are just misunderstandings of how Spirit works. For instance, when our ego is overly involved in manifestation, it can mislead us, making us believe that we are the cause of our misfortunes.

Human life comes with all sorts of challenges. Instead, we can trust that everything difficult has the potential to teach us something if we let it. I have no idea what Captain Sunshine's lesson is here, but it can't possibly be self-blame.

It's important to understand this because it moves us away from thinking we have to fix what's out of our hands, instead shifting our goal to learning what we can from what arises. Suddenly, it's not What did I do to deserve this difficult thing in my life? but rather, What does this have to teach me? This allows us to respond without putting so much weight on the outcome. It demonstrates the trust we are building.

This doesn't mean we should never apologize—sometimes we mess up and others deserve our honest acknowledgment of that—but rather that we don't need to apologize for the same thing over and over, and we certainly don't need to apologize for who we are. We also stop apologizing for our success.

We learn to separate genuine humility, a divine value, from the search for approval, an ego-based addiction. We turn inward, looking to ourselves and our guides to indicate whether we're on the right path. When we misstep, we offer a genuine apology and move on, allowing ourselves to be fueled by self-forgiveness instead of waiting for forgiveness to arrive from an external source.

When we really step into a place of power and of seeking less to please others, our relationships can shift somewhat. Some people may not be able to go there with us. If that feels uncomfortable, please know that it's temporary.

Spirit always follows this up by bringing people of like mind—the type of people who don't want you to apologize for who you are but who want to celebrate your unique offerings to the world.