How To Know When To Move In Together: 8 Important Signs To Look Out For

There's so much to consider when deciding when to move in together because so much will change. Here's some expert advice to help you figure out if you and your partner are ready for this transition or if it might be too soon.

She suggests talking about practical matters such as:

Honestly assess your partner's behavior and determine if they regularly conduct themselves in a manner that makes you comfortable living with them. "If you notice erratic behavior that is unpredictable, irregular, or illogical for the situation, that is someone with whom I would not be willing to share keys to a home or my heart," Brunson explains.

Have your conversations about the logistics and financial aspects of moving gone well? Freidus says these discussions are a great way to gauge your and your partner's ability to agree and compromise—a crucial element of living together.

Anyone can carry themselves in the most desirable manner for brief periods. This is why both Brunson and Freidus recommend spending significant time together to accurately assess your partner's behavioral consistency. "The tricky part to behavioral consistency is that it's not determined by words but rather by actions. Therefore, it's essential to observe your partner's actions over time," Brunson explains.

Freidus points out that there should be a level of comfort between the two of you, even when there's discord. Because if you live with your partner, you'll have to share space when you're upset, annoyed, or disagree with them. You want to ensure that the environment won't prohibit you from feeling content and at ease in your own home.

"What makes us want to live together?" This is a question Freidus suggests each of you ask yourselves and each other. The answer shouldn't center around simple convenience. If you're only moving in together to save money or because both your leases are up, you may want to rethink the decision. Confirm both of you have a genuine desire to take this step, independent of external factors.

Even if you're a bit nervous, Freidus says that you and your partner should be enthusiastic about moving in together. You should feel happy in the relationship. Overall, this should be a joyful time when you look forward to making the idea a reality.

Moving in with a romantic partner is a decision neither of you should be coerced into. It shouldn't be made under duress. Freidus encourages making sure that you're not doing it because you feel like you "should" or are "supposed to" move in together at this stage in your relationship—but rather, you're doing it because you actively want to live with the other person. If it doesn't happen out of 100% free will, there will likely be regrets.

Don't ignore your intuition. "Nerves are normal," Freidus assures us. "But if the nerves feel like dread or panic, it's important to take some time to understand those feelings and not take that step yet."

As Brunson emphasizes, trust is especially imperative when sharing your home with someone. You must hold a firm belief that you're making the right decision, with the right person. If you still have concerns about who your partner is and whether they can help cultivate a positive living environment, it may be too soon for you to move in together, if at all.

Once you've made the decision to live with your significant other, Freidus recommends regular discussions early on about things like managing household responsibilities, accommodating sleep and work schedules, and giving each other space as needed. This will help you continue to effectively navigate what can be a rewarding experience that brings you and your partner closer.