How To Have An Energy Orgasm: A Step-By-Step Guide

As our modern world is getting tuned into the wonders of tantra and conscious sexuality practices, there are few concepts more alluring and awe-inspiring than the idea of having unlimited numbers of orgasms purely by tapping into one's energy system. When it comes down to mesmerizing tantric sex that blows the lid off of everything you've experienced before, it's all about the energy. Here's a full guide to how to have an energy orgasm with yourself and with a partner.

Energy orgasm is a practice that can be explored with a partner or alone and involves the separation of the experience of orgasm from the stimulation required for physical climax. While you may only be able to physically climax a limited number of times in a certain session of sexual play (for some people, only once or none at all), people of all genders can learn to orgasm energetically many more times. You can also learn to orgasm even when there's no sexual contact happening, solely by tapping that generous river of pleasure that is right there waiting for you. 

An energy orgasm can also be called a "mind-gasm" because you only have to "let go" of your mind in a particular way to allow the power of this orgasmic flow to come through. You could say that most people may only "let" themselves access it during genital stimulation, but once you know it's possible to connect with this energy without direct physical contact, it becomes vastly more available to you.

Try it yourself:

Part of this is just practicing living on the edge of socially sanctioned displays of pleasure. Don't be afraid to get absorbed in this kind of orgasmic wonder for minutes at a time, letting yourself breathe, and make whatever tender sounds of delight feel natural. What's important about this particular practice is that the food orgasm is not going to uncontrollably come over you; you have to let yourself do it. The same is true for a sexual energy orgasm.

Here are the steps:

This kind of energetic awareness and mastery doesn't just happen overnight, so don't put any expectations on yourself, and take plenty of time to just play with and explore it. Give yourself at least 10 to 20 minutes for this practice, and just see where it goes.

The first time I had "energy sex" with a partner, I was amazed that I wasn't even being penetrated physically, but I felt like I was. Through my partner and me using our awareness and intention, the energy pulsing through me felt the same as when he'd be physically inside me. We simulated all the same kinds of movements, breathing, and sounds that would happen with intercourse, and the energy followed right along into wave after wave of orgasm. He even had his own energetic "release" at the end too!

This practice can also be immensely sexually awakening for some, connecting you with latent desires and visions, an arousing of your erotic power surging inside you, a level of orgasmic potential that has never fully been tapped, and dimensions of emotional and spiritual depth or subtlety that might be quite beyond description.

Once you get the hang of it, there's really no limit to when you can access this flow of eros. You can run your energy in the bedroom, in the bathtub, on your meditation cushion or on the dance floor, or even while you're waiting for the tea water to boil! Your body and subtle energy system are absolute treasure troves of wonder. This unlimited sensual life force is yours to tap into any time you choose and can refresh you, relax you, turn you on, and bring inspiration, creativity, and overflowing vitality into any moment.