How To Define Your Self-Worth When You Don't Have A Job

If you are not working at your regular job and are struggling at home during this COVID challenge, how are you feeling about yourself? Are you feeling somewhat lost regarding your sense of worth?

Many people tie their entire identities to their jobs. That's because, growing up, most of us learn to define our worth by others' approval of our looks, performance, and achievements. When we get the approval we're seeking, we feel worthy. But when we don't, we believe that we're not OK.

Today I support so many people on their spiritual healing journeys, and even I grew up with these false narratives about what determines my value as an individual. And I can say this: My life changed dramatically when I learned to define my self-worth separate from my looks, performance, and achievements.

See if you identify with these common ways of defining your worth.

Think about the friends who you truly value. What do you value about them? Is it their money, their car, their home, their fame, or their success?

Or is it their kindness, caring, generosity, honesty, reliability, and their loving nature? Is it their laughter, their adventurous nature, their sense of humor? Is it their aliveness and presence? Is it how they listen to you and are there for you? Is it that you never run out of things to talk about with them? Is it their creativity, intuition, their spiritual connection?

Hopefully, you value their intrinsic qualities more than their external qualities. And this is what you need to start to value in yourself.

We all have a blueprint in our soul for what brings us joy to offer the planet. This is our true calling—what we came to this planet to manifest.

If you have been less than thrilled with your current work or your current life, why not take this time to open to your true essence and discover what would bring you joy? What better time than now to open to what your soul wants you to hear and take action on?

The way to do this is to start to listen within to your feelings, just as you would listen to the feeling of a child you love. Your feelings let you know whether you are on track with your soul's calling or off track. If your work or how you spend your time isn't fun and fulfilling, then you might want to start to listen within to what your feelings—your soul within—is telling you.

Our soul is a very big energy. Part of it is within, and part of it is all around us. The part within often communicates through feelings, while the part all around—our higher self—often guides us by popping thoughts into our mind.