How To Use Gemstone Sex Toys For Self-Love & Beauty

We all hold the power within us to experience transformation—body, mind, and soul. But, as humans, we have forever enjoyed the use of tools to help. When I made the realization that I needed to change my relationship to sexuality if I was ever going to be happy, I created my own tool, Chakrubs.

Chakrubs are sex toys made from 100 percent natural crystals. It was 2010; I had just gotten out of a relationship in which I was subconsciously learning that my pleasure was secondary to my partner's. My body had been used as a sexual object repeatedly for six years ever since the loss of my virginity without my consent. I needed to undo this damage and reclaim my body, learn to love myself and honor my desires. I took a job at a sex toy shop to thrust myself into an environment where the people were knowledgeable and sex-positive. I was tempted often by the vast selection of sex toys I could buy but never made a purchase. I knew that what I needed was more than an orgasm. I needed to reconnect to myself on a deeper level.

At this time, I was hosting a spiritual teacher in my home and we had countless conversations about crystals, energy systems, and other metaphysics. It was one night when I joined him in a meeting with other people in the New Age community when a woman showed me a crystal wand that sparked the idea for Chakrubs. Combining crystals with sexuality would be a kind of tantric technology, a way for me to create deeper intimacy with myself while acknowledging my desire for pleasure.

Here are five ways to use crystal sex toys for self-love and beauty:

Just like with any crystal, you can program your Chakrub with a specific intention. If your intention is to lovingly accept yourself, you can meditate with the crystal holding this intention in your mind. Now, every time you feel aroused and are going to have a session with the Chakrub, you are reminded of this intention and enhancing its power through sexual energy and positive thinking.

Starting at your feet and moving all up the body, use the Chakrub as a massage tool by rolling it lightly against your muscles. Acknowledge the various parts of your body, thanking them for their service to you. Realize what a work of art you are and how intricate of a system you have to play with in this world.

A crystal grid is created by placing crystals around an area and connecting them energetically using a wand. In this crystal grid, place crystals all around your bed with you sitting in the center. Have another small crystal in your less dominant hand, and hold it by your heart. Using the Chakrub, tune it to your heart, and make a line from that to a crystal in the grid. Repeat this process with all the crystals in the grid. You can then use the toy sexually and honor the immense pleasure you've created!

An altar is a designated space to hold objects symbolizing what is important to you. Your Chakrub, a tool for self-love, can be placed on your altar along with other crystals, candles, words of affirmation, seashells, and sentimental objects. Dedicate time every day meditating at this altar to reinforce your focus on that which is most important to you.

Sexual pleasure does more than you may think for beauty. It increases blood flow to give you a natural flush in the lips and cheeks, reduces stress, and even boosts the immune system. Focusing on pleasure with your sex toy will not only have these benefits, but you will feel beautiful knowing that you are doing something good for yourself—body, mind, and soul.