Finding yourself in a sexless marriage when you didn't want or intend for it to be this way can feel anywhere from frustrating to devastating. Rest assured that marriages can survive without intimacy under certain circumstances, and there are ways to fix a sexless marriage if both people are willing to work on it.

A marriage does need intimacy to survive, though there are many types of intimacy. Physical intimacy often enhances a marriage, though it's not necessary for all people and all couples.

Physical intimacy is more important to some people than it is to others; the problem only arises if the two people in a relationship disagree about the importance of physical intimacy.

Emotional intimacy, on the other hand, is often a necessity for a couple to be truly connected, honest, and happy. Emotional intimacy refers to the ability to share your true thoughts and feelings with each other and feel a sense of safety, comfort, and warmth with each other. Most marriages cannot function in a healthy way without this emotional intimacy.

Some couples don't mind a marriage without sex. If it's not a problem for the couple, then a sexless marriage isn't a problem, says AASECT-certified sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman. (Here's our full guide to sexless relationships.)

Even if one or both people aren't happy with the lack of physical intimacy, that's an issue that can be worked on and improved over time. "If you love your partner and you value your relationship, there are ways to address the lack of sex between the two of you as long as you're both willing to work together," Zimmerman writes at mbg. "It's common, almost universal, to struggle with sex at some point over the course of a relationship."

Sometimes a couple stops being able to have sex due to health conditions, aging, an increase in caregiving responsibilities, or other factors that can't necessarily be "fixed." But even in these situations, couples can learn to accept the lack of sex over time because they love their partner and everything else about their relationship.

All that said, for some people, the lack of physical intimacy can outweigh the other good things in the marriage, so they may choose to leave the relationship in the end.

"I've helped a lot of couples completely transform their relationships, so I have an optimistic view about being able to resolve these issues," Vanessa Marin, LMFT, a sex therapist and creator of The Passion Project, tells mbg. "But it can be especially challenging when one partner is unhappy with the level of intimacy in a relationship and the other partner is perfectly content. You just can't force anyone to change or to care about something that they don't care about."

If you're unhappy with the lack of sex in your marriage, the key factor to keep in mind is whether your partner is willing to work with you to improve the situation. If they're not, that's a strong sign that it might not work out.

"I'm not saying it's not possible to fix this kind of relationship, but it's definitely going to be much more challenging," Marin adds. "If you want to change your sex life, but your partner is not willing to work on it, you're going to have to ask yourself some tough questions about the future of your relationship."

A marriage without sex can work as long as the couple still has intimacy and closeness.

"If a relationship is sexless and both parties express this desire, it has to have a friendship foundation," marriage therapist and certified sex educator Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, tells mbg. "They must be able to have pleasure and closeness outside of the physicality. This means being able to celebrate joy with one another, engage in affection (which isn't always physical), and truly support one another along life's journey."

She adds, "Ensuring there is a solid likability in the relationship along with commitment lays the foundation for relationship success."

If one or both people does still have sexual needs, she adds that the couple needs to be able to find ways to make sure those needs are being met. "This may look different for every couple. Maybe masturbation is integral, maybe cuddling, employing a sex worker, or engaging in erotic play through play parties can be options."

"A couple in a sexless relationship first needs to take an assessment on whether they want a sexless relationship. If they do, then great," Brown-James says. "If not, then talking to a professional is integral in exploring how to get the sexual needs met."