Why Meditation Can Make You Angry & What To Do About It

And unfortunately, these annoying thoughts that stem from criticism from your boss, a fight you had with your spouse, or that jerk who cut you off on your commute home can grow bigger, louder, and more commanding the longer we sit in silence. Rest assured that becoming angry while meditating is quite a common experience.

Our bodies hold on to almost everything that happened to us over the course of a day—pleasant or unpleasant. And neuroscience tells us that unfortunately, our brain is hard-wired for a negative bias. That means we tend to hold on to the unpleasant things more than pleasant ones. Just think about it: If someone gives you 10 compliments and one insult, what sticks around longer? This bias activates what I call in my book, The Power of Vital Force, the "anger spectrum." It can lead to regret, guilt, and blame unless we nip it in the bud. Here are four ways to do it.

The trick is: Don't fight the negative emotion that is coming up in meditation. It's a sign that you are noticing what you've outgrown and don't need to hold on to. Appreciate that the anger is coming up so that you can empty and release it and create space in your mental hard drive.

Building off of Step 1, tell yourself, "Oh! Meditation is working. I am getting rid of what was stuck in some corner of the mind-body complex. I don't need it." Reframing your anger in this way can be a powerful way to strip its power over you.

Remember that anger, impatience, and irritation are all about something that has already happened—something that is dead and gone physically and is now simply rearing its ugly head in your mind and body. You can't change what has happened—but you might be able to learn a lesson from it. You'll know that's happened once the situation loses its electrical charge, and you can now talk about it and share it calmly. If the charge behind the situation or person isn't gone, then it could be a sign you haven't yet learned the lesson. So, during meditation, if some unpleasant emotion continues to come up, tell yourself, "This is over. It's dead and gone."

And finally, don't forget, take a breath. Breath has the ability to energize your system, which is exactly what we need when we are angry or upset. The answer to dealing with our emotions, transforming our perceptions, and gaining back control is right under our nose. So the next time you find yourself getting angry or impatient during meditation, take a deep breath and imagine yourself releasing the negative emotions on an exhale.