10 Things I Know To Be True Now That I'm In My Forties

Here are 10 lessons I've learned over the years — may they prove helpful to you in some large or small way, no matter your age.

But, no matter how hard it gets, don’t let it harden you.

Look for the opportunity to learn and grow — it’s always there.

Is it happening to you or for you? When you choose to look at life as happening for you, you empower yourself. You go from victim to owner of your life.

This one’s a game changer. I went through life for far too long believing my girls were incapable of finding a comfortable, flattering home. Who knew that a trained bra-fitting professional was all they really needed? Go. Now. Your girls will thank you.

Don’t push the feelings away — they're a part of your human nature. Be with them. Observe them. Just don’t wallow in them or allow them to hold you back from moving forward.

You were born into this life, just like everyone else. Never forget that you have a divine right to be here.

The two have entirely different sets of rules. Life’s not about keeping up with the Jones’ as much as it’s about growing into your highest self. Move in the direction that your inner voice guides you, and watch the rest fall into place.

This one's important. Find friends who accept you as you are — who won’t give a crap about how many times you mess up, fall down, wipe out. Take time to laugh until you cry, cry until you feel better, and do every crazy thing you’d like, together. It’s these relationships, these memories, that you’ll hold onto when you’re older and you’ll want to continue making for the rest of your life.

Do the best you can, and know that it’s enough. Heck, you don’t even have to be a mom for this one.

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